Selena Gomez revealed a sign of maturity foreign to most 24-year-olds

A true sign of strength, something you don’t see everyday from most pop stars. It’s just too bad that her followers were being total jerks about it.

Selena Gomez attends the premiere of "Rudderless" in Los Angeles, 2014. Jason Kempin | Getty Images

It was an emotional birthday weekend for Selena Gomez. She celebrated turning 24 last Friday and then took the stage in Jakarta the following evening as part of her Revival Tour. It started with a teary eyed introduction to her song “Kill Em With Kindness.” Later, after the performance, she turned to Instagram to express some conflicting sentiments with a refreshing honesty and vulnerability we don’t usually get hear from beautiful, confident pop stars every day.

She posted a screenshot of ramblings in her iPhone notes app, which read:

To avoid ruffling any of her Indonesian fans’ feathers, she added a caption to the image, saying, “[N]ot being negative about anything I’ve done. I’m grateful for every single moment I get here. Indonesia you were LOUD and clearly inspiring. Love you so much.”

The post has since been deleted from Selena’s Instagram, although it does appear on a @selenadeletedposts page. It’s possible that she was disappointed by the feedback she received and decided that expressing such vulnerable emotions wasn’t worth the drama.

Although it was short-lived, there’s something very moving about a woman as gorgeous, accomplished, and widely loved as Selena admitting to feelings of inauthenticity. Although the post was worded in a way that made it difficult to interpret exactly what she was dealing with emotionally, it’s clear the Disney star turned singer and philanthropist was experiencing feelings of discomfort with herself, her occupation, and her life as a whole.

Who among us hasn’t felt disconnected from ourselves at some point or other? The French philosopher Pierre Teilhard de Chardin says it’s natural for us to take a look at the lives we lead and feel that they’re not our own—that we’re unconnected, as Selena put it, to the very things that make us who we are.

Even the most privileged among us can feel that life demands a lot from us physically, emotionally, and even socially. It can be extremely difficult to do anything unabashedly and whole-heartedly, especially while being observed or critiqued by others. It’s possible that with the reflection that always comes from a birthday and the stress from travels and preparations for her world tour, Selena was feeling less than perfect onstage that evening.

It’s too bad that her insensitive Instagram followers’ reactions were evidently less than supportive, and a sincere expression of her emotions and psychological vulnerability was wiped away. But what matters is that she had the guts to admit them, and that’s inspiration for us all. This is strength, Selena, not weakness. Just remember that.

Elizabeth Pardi
Elizabeth Pardi
Elizabeth Pardi is a New York-born, Virginia-raised, Ohio-dwelling freelancer. She spends her days laughing, learning and running her way through life with her superstar spouse and their charmingly passionate one-year-old.

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